Relationship, Couples and Marriage Counseling in San Diego, CA

You’ve been together for quite some time. You remember how early on you fell in love, and felt so lucky. You used to energize each other, and felt alive. Then, life got in the way: work became demanding, having kids too. Each of you started focusing more on tasks, and less on each other. With personal responsibilities mounting, you realized that there is less and less time in your schedule for your partner, and in their schedule – for you. Less attention to who you are, how you feel or what you need. Less talking, less touching. More irritation and disconnect. You’ve been feeling heavy and sad. Lately, hurtful things were said or done. You feel lonely in the couple. You are worried that there is no way back and that you have lost your chance.

I help couples who struggle with their relationship

My name is Rina, and I help couples who feel stuck in their relationship. I work with couples or relationships of all types (e.g., straight, queer, married, not married, traditional, non-traditional, polyamorous, open, and others). In therapy, we create a space for each party in the relationship to be heard with an open heart and respect. We work on removing defensiveness in communication and increasing compassion and empathy toward each other. We identify needs that are not being met and explore ways to address them. If need be, we re-negotiate “agreements” in the relationship; for instance, who does what, and how to make it work. With increase in compassion, trust, and safety, we also work on improving emotional and physical intimacy.

Therapy with me

My approach in couples therapy and marriage counseling is curious and candid. I don’t shy away from hard conversations and encourage authenticity, compassion, and support. In counseling with me, partners express themselves after years of feeling shut down. We laugh in therapy and point to new and old ways to re-connect.  If it is the case that your relationship is coming to an end, I will help you with processing this choice, and work on amicable closure.

Reach out to me for a FREE phone consultation!

If you are ready to do some relationship work, please click here or call me at 858-330-0065 to schedule a 15-minute phone consultation. Please note that I would wish to talk with each one of you separately to confirm a good fit in our work. After a short conversation with each partner, I will let you know if I can help. If I am not the right person for you, I will direct you to others that can help or recommend resources. I provide online (through video) therapy if both partners are physically located anywhere in California at the time of the appointment. In San Diego, I provide in-person therapy as well. My specialties also include working with foreigners & immigrants, LGBTQ+ folks, and college and graduate students.